It is amazing, but I can’t tell you how many couples have probably had their sexual encounters with each other interrupted because their political views are different. I don’t know how Madeline and Carvel do it? I don’t mean that in the physical sense, but emotionally.
Picture a couple, it could be your spouse, significant other, or whatever relationship you are in—one person is on the Right side of the aisle and the other is on the Left or vice-versa. Recently, my wife and I were having dinner with another couple, during which inevitably, a verbal confrontation broke out over politics. It doesn’t matter what side you are on, even if your spouse agrees with you, blood starts to boil because you just broke the cardinal rule. “When out with friends, never discuss politics or religion.”
I couldn’t tell you how many times my wife has said to me as we were driving to meet friends, “If you discuss politics at dinner I am getting in a taxi and going home.”
You already know that no matter how many times she says, “don’t,” it falls on deaf ears. Because, even if you didn’t start the conversation, one of your friends will. If they don’t someone at the next table will be discussing the news of the day in a very loud voice and eventually turn to you and say “right buddy?” And, you will answer. “Whatever you say fella.” The next thing you know, you are now in the middle of a debate with a total stranger. The rest is history as your wife shouts, “Waiter, call me a cab.” Literally translated, “call me a cab” means three-weeks on the couch.
The vitriolic rhetoric that is expressed between friends because of politics has gotten so out of hand that long- term relationships are deteriorating. People have stopped talking to each other. There have been physical assaults against people’s property. Tires have been slashed, dogs have been intentionally walked on each others lawns and in one case I know, windows have been shot out with a pellet gun. It is absolutely insane.
The problem is that it is not getting any better. The cultural civil war and political divide in America is so out of control that if you lined up the Left and Right on two sides of the street they would be throwing stones at each other. Heaven forbid it if they were armed. That may sound like a bold statement but, unfortunately I mean it. I don’t have to spell it out for you. As you are reading this, I am willing to bet that you know of at least one incident that fits this category.
I was playing golf one day when suddenly one member of our foursome stormed off carrying his clubs and shouting, “You’re an idiot. You have no idea what you are talking about and don’t ever ask me to play with you again,” all over politics.
How many times has your wife said one of her friends called and wanted to go to dinner? You know her friends husband's political views are diverse from yours and that you just don’t want to be around him. Statements like, “She’s OK, it’s him I can’t stand. Have a good time,” are the words coming from your lips.
The rancorous feelings have spread to a larger scale. I recently addressed a group about Radical Islam. I was screening the movie “Obsession, Radical Islam’s War with the West.” When the movie was finished, before I even had time to ask for questions from the audience the shouting started. “I want to see the Moslems side to this film.” “That movie is nothing but Bush propaganda,” another shouted.
It started to get ugly, so we called it quits when the president of the charitable organization grabbed the microphone and shouted that they are not a political organization and did not condone my political speech. I never got a chance to say a word. There wasn’t any speech political or otherwise. It got very ugly. There were over 225 people in the audience and me. I kept looking for a flying chair to come my way. Luckily it didn’t happen. Thinking quickly I said, “Refreshments are now being served in the next room.” How do you calm down an unruly crowd? ‘Free food,’ it works every time.
The vitriolic feelings are so intense, that this has left me pondering a very incisive question. One of your political enemies, who used to be your friend, suddenly collapsed in front of you and went into cardiac arrest. The question is, if you knew CPR would you use it? If the tables were turned would they?
And, that is my scary opinion.
Michael Solomon
Author of 'Where Did My America Go?"